What would be correct?

If a person is a man, his name is of the male gender, Roger for instance, however he dresses, and speaks like a woman. When you speak to them would you refer to them as Ms, Mr, or yes mam no sir? Reason I am asking is because yesterday I went to a hair dresser, the person cutting hair was a man who was dressed like a woman, long hair, makeup, earings, painted nails clothes etc. I noticed a young boy who was himself confused at what to say. The stylist asked him a question and the boy said, yes mam, to answer, but then I could see that he was a little unsure as to if he said the right gender. It just made we wonder what would be the correct reference in that situation. Would it be just to leave the gender referance out completely and just say, yes, no, etc. I am from the south and around here many children are taught to refer to their elders with the, Mr, Ms, Sir, Mam, etc as a sign of respect. I just wanted your opinion on this.

Thanks

What would be correct?

Generally refer to the person as the gender they are dressing as unless they tell you otherwise. They want you to see and interact with a person of the sex they are dressing as not as the sex they were born.

What would be correct?

well if he's dress like a woman he must want to be treated like a woman. what i do is say "hey" and try not to make conversation

What would be correct?

yes, i think madam is appropriate, as he is a transgender. it was nice of the young boy to call him (oh i mean her ,,) mam and being polite.

What would be correct?

It's polite to refer to the gender they are trying to pass as, or be. The majority of us transexuals seem to prefer to be called by the gender we identify with mentally and emotionally.

What would be correct?

I'd just avoid gendered speech like sir and ma'am, but because of the culture thing if you really wanted to use stuff like that then ask. The people that get offended are people you probably don't want to be around anyways.