Wednesday, May 9, 2012

My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

right before Christmas. I've been going to her for about 15 years. I sent her a card, and did as the obituary in the paper said to do, I signed our condolences in the online guestbook for her husband. I'm not good with this sort of thing, and didn't really know what to say. I also didn't want to impose by calling her, or stopping by. Did I do the right thing? Also, I'm needing my hair cut really bad. Would it be cold to call the salon to see if she's there? If not, how do I go into asking her to cut my hair. This may seem stupid, but I'm at a loss here, and I thank you for any advice you can give.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

Sounds like you did everything right. How did you make appointments to see her in the past? Do the same thing...or just call the salon and make an appointment with her through them...that's how you initially started seeing her...



Yes, she's going through a hard time, but as a friend %26amp; client, if she is working, I'm sure she doesn't want to lose your business.



If she's not available this time, go somewhere else, and in a month or two when she's back, continue seeing her again.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

Well, she most likely did have to go back to work. There's nothing wrong with calling the salon and asking whether she's back.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

Well find some one else to do it,or ask her if she would do it?



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

just get it cut by someone else- for all you know she;s porbably greeiving his death so- you're gonna have to go with someone else or you'll seem like yoou're being selfish.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

sounds like you did the right things. Call the saloon and check her status. I 'm sure that they'll be able to advise you better than anyone online.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

You should call and make an appointment, the more normal things are for her now the better she will be.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

First off, Dont worry about it



you could have called, but you didnt have too



next, it isnt fair for her to lose her husband and a customer



you should keep going there, and just let the past be past



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

If she's still doing hair, just go and get your hair done. Just don't bring it up to her b/c she might be still bottling up feeling and you don't want her to start crying and not finish your hair... May-be doing hair is her therapy right now...I think you should call to see if she's still working.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

there is other hair dresser in the world so just call and ask



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

just call the salon and make an appt, ask if your friend is available and see what they say.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

You should absolutely call the salon. Surely she needs the money now more than ever. Plus, you treating her as a friend will make her feel human again. Tell her how you feel, and if she wants to talk about it, she will. Otherwise, she might appreciate taking her mind off of it.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

My sister also lost her husband last year. A person does need time to mourn their loss.



You might have to use another stylist. Otherwise, call and just ask to speak with her. If she is there they will give her the phone or they will tell you she hasn't come back to work.



If she does answer just tell her that you would like to schedule an appointment with her.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

You should call and get an appointment with her, and when you get there and she starts doing your hair just talk to her and ask how she is doing. My mom died when I was in the 11th grade and I was afraid that people would feel bad for me and they wouldn't talk to me, but when I did get to school people walked up to me and asked how I was and it made me feel better that someone was actually thinking about me.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

you sent her a card, which shows that you took the time and did a caring gesture. I'm sure she appreciated it. Just give her a call and see if she's working. I don't see what you could've possibly done wrong.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

you should really consider having your hair cut with another hairdresser! I understand that you have been seeing her for fifteen years, but give the woman a break her husband died~ if anything I would call her to see how she is doing (obviously not great) but you get the point! by calling her you should be able to find out wether she is back to working or not! Good luck! whatever you do do not call her and ask her for a haircut! plus she might even offer it if you call her to check up on her!



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

call her at her house to say hi and check how she is doing, dont mention anything about your hair, then call the salon to make an appointment with her for your hair...



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

I would recommend calling for an appointment and acting as normal. death is something very hard to deal with and we all deal with it differently, but it is very important for "normalcy" life goes on.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

I would call the shop and see if she's working and make an appointment. If she's working, when you go and see her, be very friendly. Ask how she's doing and tell her how sorry you were for her loss. If she feels like talking she will open up. The best way you can help is listen and ask questions. If she doesn't open up, change the subject to a pre-thought of topic. If you live in a small town, something in the town that's going on. Or a topic everyone loves to jump on, the presidential candidates. What ever you do, just visit with her. Talking will help her, even if it's nonsense talk.



Experience, lost a husband too. It helps to talk when the moment and the person is right. It helps to just visit when its not.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

What I would do is first call her and tell her about how bad you feel about what happend. You could go take her out to lunch with her to make her feel a lot better. While you are talking to her about stuff joke around about how..... your hair looks horrible then ask her if she's up to cutting your hair.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

If the 2 of you have become friends then its important to call on her at home and talk with her or just listen to her. She may be lonely as people tend to feel awkward where a death is co ncerned, as in not quite knowing what to say so they put off visiting . Saying nothing, a hug can do it just as well , that will work.also You may discuss the work issue at the same time, it would give a topic to start a conversation and see what happens.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

Call the salon and make the appointment with her. You did the right thing. You didn't say if you and this person were good friends, in which case a call would have been nice but if she was just cutting your hair for a long time, you did right sending the condolences the way you did.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

You let her know you had her in your thoughts %26amp; that was sweet of you. Trust me, you wouldn't be imposing if you gave her a call %26amp; asked her if she's up to having some company. If she says yes, then maybe you could stop at the bakery on your way to her house %26amp; pick up some baked goods to take to her. If she's not up to company, then tell her maybe another time. If you go to her home, do not ask her about cutting your hair or she may think that's the only reason you stopped by. I'm sure in visiting with her or chatting on the phone, she'll let you know when she's going back to work. Forget about your hair for the moment %26amp; be there for your hairdresser. She'll be so grateful.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

Wow, that is tough. Having lost a husband unexpectedly, it is never an imposition to inquire on how someone is doing. Do not be surprised if she is taking some extra time off. At the same time do not be surprised if she is back to work.... she may need something to fill the time. Go ahead and call the salon, ask how she is doing. If she is back to work go on and schedule an appointment, it is likely to do her good to have some of her old faith fulls there. If she is not back just let her know you are thinking of her and that you will temporarily let someone else take care of your hair.



You did the right thing by offering your condolences.



You might also see if there is any 'donation' as she may need assistance at this time.



When you get to see her again do not be afraid to just listen to her.



Under no circumstances should you say anything like "He's in a better place." or You're young you'll find someone else... Believe me people can and do say these stupid things.



Search your heart, be kind, and don't worry about being an imposition, people in this position need to know they are thought of.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

you should call the salon and ask if shes able to cut her hair when shes cutting your hair casually get into the conversation about her husband and ask if shes ok trust my my dad died when i was in 3rd grade and i didnt want people to not talk to me and im sure she wont want people to not talk to her either cuz she will feel alienated just tell her that you care about her and you want to help



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

Just contact her and give her your condolence and let her know that if she's ready. You would like to have her cut your hair.



My hair dresser's husband died in a car accident...?

That is unfortunate, but a bit egocentric that you are asking a question like this.... it is sad that someone died, really, but I don't know him and I can't pat you on the back for it so cry yourself to sleep.



Call her no biggy

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